Finding the Right Fertility Doctor
Let’s talk about how to find the right fertility doctor for you. While these tips are specifically for fertility doctors, you can use these tips when you’re trying to find any doctor.
Red Flags in Your Fertility Doctor
Your fertility doctor will become a critical player in your family-building journey, and trust is so important. Fertility is vulnerable, humbling, and sometimes frustrating—so this blog post includes red flags to watch for when finding your fertility doctor.
5 Things to Know About Lesbian Baby-Making
As a reproductive endocrinologist, I love helping to build all types of families. When you have two people with two uteruses and (usually) four ovaries, there are many family-building options. Here are some of my top learning moments from working with lesbian patients.
Infertility and the Holidays: Survival Tips for Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving can be a minefield of emotions and difficult to navigate when you’re struggling to build your family. Survival tips on preparing yourself for ways to cope can mean the difference between a pleasant experience and an agonizing one.
Supporting Loved Ones Through Father’s Day When They Want But Don’t Have Children Yet
Father’s Day like many holidays can be a stinging reminder of what some people desire most but do not have yet. Whether it’s years of infertility, a recent miscarriage, a failed adoption attempt – any holiday celebrating family can make those that want it most feel down. Learn how you can help.
Supporting Loved Ones with Infertility on Mother's Day
Mother’s Day is a wonderful way to celebrate the mothers but this holiday can be a painful trigger for many struggling with infertility and pregnancy loss. The get togethers, cards, flowers, social media posts can be reminders of what they have lost or desire to be. If you know someone grieving this Mother’s Day, keep reading to learn how you can support your loved ones.
Mother's Day When You're Dealing with Infertility
Mother’s Day can be tough for women who are trying to build their family but are struggling with infertility and miscarriage. Learn how to care for yourself as Mother’s Day approaches.
Thanksgiving Infertility Survival Tips: How to Cope in 2020
Thanksgiving can be a joyful time for gathering with family and friends, but it can be full of triggers when you’re dealing with infertility and miscarriage. Thanksgiving in the midst of a 2020 global pandemic will definitely be different but connecting with family and friends either in small in person gatherings or over phone, FaceTime, or a Zoom-enabled dinner can still provide the stinging reminder of the frustrations of family building. Keep reading to learn coping skills for navigating the minefield of questions and suggestions that come with all the holidays.
Father's Day When You're Not A Father Yet: Support and Self Care
Father’s Day can be a painful reminder for men who are trying but are not fathers yet. Recommendations for supporting men you love and self care if you are a man who is trying to build a family this Father’s Day.
Holiday Survival Guide with Infertility and Miscarriage
Holidays are tough when you do not have the family of your dreams yet. If you or someone you love is struggling with infertility or miscarriage this holiday season, this post is for you. Read here about tips and reassuring suggestions for navigating the holidays while you are trying to conceive.
Navigating Thanksgiving Conversations When You are Trying to Conceive
Thanksgiving gatherings can be a minefield of triggers when you’re trying to conceive. Here are some supportive tips to help navigate the awkward family questions and situations with friends.
Infertility is No Joke, but Sometimes You Just Need to Laugh
Laughter can be healing, especially when dealing with infertility and miscarriage.
Does Stress Cause Infertility? Answers From A Fertility Specialist
As a fertility specialist, one of the most common questions I get from my patients every day is "Does stress cause infertility?" Some studies suggest a mind/body connection between stress and health issues and infertility is one of the most stressful challenges someone can face. What does the evidence show? How do I answer this question?
Reproduction Is NOT Small Talk: Think Before You Ask
Why are people’s reproductive choices or family situations considered open game for small talk? As a fertility doctor, patients talk to me about this all the time: While they are struggling to complete their family with fertility treatments, they are bombarded with questions from family, friends, and even strangers about their reproductive plans and choices. As a woman, I have been asked inappropriate questions from well-meaning strangers (assume best intentions!) ― but enough!
Not Broken: The Emotional Impact of Miscarriage and Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Dealing with infertility and recurrent pregnancy loss have been compared to dealing with chronic disease and even cancer. Similar feelings of frustration, isolation, and questions like ‘Why me?’ surround these conditions, but the reactions from friends and the support provided can be different. As a society, we know what to do when someone gets cancer – we have meals to organize and flowers to send – but people suffering with recurrent pregnancy loss often suffer in silence. Most miscarriages are in the first trimester, before people are physically showing pregnancy and before they announce it publicly.
When the Doctor Becomes a Patient: What I Learned from Having a Surgical Complication
It was supposed to be a simple procedure, taking less than an hour out of my day and a week away from work. Weeks later, I am back at work – not yet fully recovered but forever changed… for the better.
5 Ways to Support a Friend After Miscarriage
As a recurrent pregnancy loss specialist, part of my job is to talk with my patients about their emotional as well as their physical well-being. Having a miscarriage can be an isolating and devastating experience, and when many of my patients come in, they are in the middle of grieving a recent loss. They describe the strain this can place on relationships with friends and family—people can unintentionally be hurtful when trying to be supportive. Many of my patients start to feel isolated from their family and friends, which is unfortunate, because going through a miscarriage is one of those times when people need support more than ever.